What does the word “Retard” actually mean? Do you actually know?

Hey guys! I’m back, its been a while since I last posted (a while meaning nearly two months – Oops…). I’ve been a little busy with exams (etc.) but I’m finally freeeee!!! I’m working on a project at the moment as well as trying to blog but I’m excited to tell you guys what the project is – it should be live in around a month or two, I’m so happy with how it is going at the moment. There are so many good things lined up for the next couple of months for me and I’m honestly so happy and excited, but of course there are a few nerves. I’m sure I will talk about it all soon.

But for now and the next few times that I post I want to get blog posts out of my drafts and onto my blog, there are so many unfinished blogs in my drafts its unreal but I couldn’t be happier to share them with you guys. This is my space and I am so excited to share all my ideas with you guys.

Okay, here goes, this idea came to me after an incident at school – in fact it’s happened quite a few times since I have left. I know I should start to get over what happened at school but for me everything big that happened there has effected me somehow and therefore I am going to write about it until something different happens or until I feel better about what happened (better isn’t the right word but I’m hoping you understand what I mean).

So I don’t know if anyone has ever experienced this (I know most have but maybe some have been fortunate not to), but for some odd reason some people seem to use the word retarded where it doesn’t make sense and it really seems to bug me – I don’t really know why – I don’t know if it’s because I wouldn’t do it but I’m not 100% sure why it does bother me.

“That’s so retarded.” – “Your so retarded.” – “You retard.”

There’s this boy that I used to talk to and he said it once, since then we haven’t spoken, I may seem uptight because of this but then again he did say it about my brother.

If you know me personally, you will know that my brother is my world and anything that bothers him bothers me as well. You don’t even need to know me personally to know that my brother means a lot to me – it doesn’t take me long to start talking about my brother with someone new.

He is so special to me – it’s really strange because I see some of my friends with their siblings and all they do is fight or argue, or they hate each other, which doesn’t really make sense to me. I’m not really sure why, it just doesn’t make sense.

Back to why this word annoys me out of context. I have had a lot of things said to me about my brother, “Your brother is so weird and retarded” – in what way does that sentence sound okay coming out of someone’s mouth? I don’t know about you but I find that really rude and quite frankly its quite offensive.

My brother is not a retard, he is no different from you. – Oh except he is, he is so much nicer, he is kind and thoughtful and wouldn’t do anything to hurt another person. He certainly would not say that about someone else.

The definition of the word retard: “Delay or hold back in terms of progress or development.”

That is all it means, it isn’t a group of people. You are lucky that you don’t have a disability – you are lucky that you don’t have things holding you back. Although I guess you’re not because I wouldn’t change my brother for anything, he is so special and kind and just so wonderful but he certainly isn’t retarded. Just because someone has a disability does not mean that they are retarded.

The word is unnecessary. I know some may use it as a joke but honestly – it puts me off even speaking to someone who I have heard use that word. That may seem weird or silly but why would I want someone like that around my brother, I wouldn’t.

So yes, if it isn’t already clear and I haven’t said it yet, I don’t like the word, it’s a horrible word that people use when they don’t understand and don’t want to understand someone who is disabled – or maybe their just saying it to their mate.

So next time your about to use that word – if you even do use this word – think about it before you speak, is it nice? Is it true? Is the person going to benefit from you saying it?

I just don’t really understand why people use that word and think its okay – it doesn’t make sense to me.

Okay, so I guess that’s it until my next blog post. I don’t know when that’ll be, I need to work out when I’m going to post and what I’m going to post. But until next time, have a good week, keep smiling, and think about things before you say them – if it’s not helpful or kind then is there really any point in you saying it? If it doesn’t benefit others what’s the point of saying it? – Stay strong and stay positive. Much love – Alison xx