Hello again, I just wanted to say a massive thank you as always for the support that I keep getting from every post that I write. It means so much! Last week, I actually got a few messages from a few girls saying thank you for sharing the post with everyone. Knowing that I have helped someone means so much to me, that reaches my entire point of this blog, I’m already achieving what I thought wouldn’t be possible for a while. So thank you so much for the support and feedback. It really does help!
So, this weeks post kind of links to last weeks post about the grief I got with my hair.
Okay, so a while ago, when I got grief about my hair (If you don’t already know about this, check out last weeks post), I tried to hide the shaved part of my hair. I pulled my hair back to how it used to be and hid what I was being bullied about, my hair. I didn’t want to be bullied about it anymore, I got my hair cut differently because I wanted to. It wasn’t to impress anyone, it was because it was something that I wanted to do. I got fed up of being bullied though, it was every single day, in school and on the way home. My brother was even being affected by what was happening. So I covered it up, hoping that I would be left alone but that didn’t happen, it still carried on.
Two months passed of me trying to hide my hair and it didn’t stop. That’s when my dad started going into the school, I told him I wanted to let my hair grow out again (Lies, complete lies, I didn’t want to whatsoever! In fact, I still don’t!!!). When the problem started to get solved I started to put my hair up, so I wasn’t hiding it anymore. Why should I have to hide it anyway?
The way I look at it is, you see boys with shaved patterns in their hair and they don’t get bullied about that so why should I have to hide my hair. I love the way it looks, I’m so happy with how it turned out, so why should I have to hide it… I shouldn’t and I no longer do hide it.
That kind of sums up my point with anything really, why change who you are because of someone else? You shouldn’t have to and if you’re happy then who cares?! If you want to dye your hair green, go for it! If you want to wear that shirt that everyone makes fun of, do it! Why should you have to do things differently or change because of others, I’m telling you from experience, you shouldn’t have to do anything that you don’t want to and if you do change because of them, it gets worse, they know they have won, they see they can have an effect on you. If you want to do something then go for it. Don’t do it because others say to.
It took me such a long time to realise this but it’s true, don’t make changes to yourself because of others, do it for you!
Yesterday I posted a picture of myself with a quote that I love ever so much so I thought I would share it.
✨ ✨ Be happy, be who you want to be. If others don’t like it, let them be. As the saying goes, happiness is a choice. Life isn’t about pleasing everybody ✨ ✨
My point is: Don’t change who you are for other people, especially if you are being bullied. Be who you want to be.
So that’s it from me this week. A shorter post than usual but I just wanted to get the message across because I spent way to much time trying to change for other people, not to impress them, but for them to leave me alone. Hope this helps someone! There will be a new blog post next week. Stay positive and have hope. Much love – Alison xx