15 things I have learnt from my friends…

Hey guys, so this week I have decided to write an appreciation post for the ones that have supported me the most over the past few years. They know who they are. I really could never say thank you enough for what they do for me. They have raised my confidence, they have helped me through so much. This post is probably going to be ‘super cringe’ but oh well… At the end of the day, I have the most amazing support. They are the kindest, most loveliest, caring people in the world and I wouldn’t know what to do without them. I wouldn’t change them one bit!

In this post I am going to be writing about my 15 favourite quotes or things that I have learnt from my friends. They have taught me a lot, whether they know it or not, I have learnt things that I would never learn in school. I have also learnt things from people who are no longer my friends so I might add a few of those things as well because there important things that I have learnt.

Here goes..

1. You can’t trust everyone…

It took me a while to realise this, but I ended up realising that I can’t trust everyone, even the people who I thought I could trust. I know this sounds like a stupid point because most people already know this, I knew this, but I didn’t know that someone I classed as my friend could prove to be untrustworthy… I was like 14, okay? Don’t judge me..

2. Not everyone is here to stay…

“Alison these are obvious…” – To be honest, there not that obvious, when your little you think that your best friend is still going to be your best friend till your old and grey… However, I realised that this isn’t always the case. I was friends with 3 main people in primary school and I haven’t seen them since I’ve left, of course I have tried to stay in contact with them but it hasn’t worked very well. At the start of secondary school, I became friends with someone who I really believed was real…a true friend…turns out she decided that she’d rather be friends with the people who bullied me. At the time, course I was upset but now I don’t really care… It doesn’t affect me. I guess the lesson is that you can’t get too attached to someone in a short period of time and that you have to wait a while to know that they are going to stay. On the plus side, this isn’t 100% true for everyone, there are some people who have stuck around, hence the reason I am writing this post.

3. The smallest of things can brighten someone’s day…

Just a little example that happened today of the title of this heading, I’m just going to leave this here…

“I used to be a unicorn of magic but the troll ate me” – wizard A.K.A Callie

I’ve realised that it’s the little things that matter and that the smallest thing can brighten someone’s day. Even the smallest thing like just smiling at someone could brighten their day. Often I end up making the most ridiculous jokes that aren’t even funny (I’ll admit it’s true!), but even when someone gives me that face that looks like they’d rather be anywhere else but listening to the awful joke, it makes me smile because they either laugh because it’s not funny but I tried or laugh because it was stupid. Either way I know that it puts a smile on their face and that’s what matters most to me.

4. “The world will beat you to your knees if you let it, so don’t let it beat you down..!”

This is actually an interesting quote that made me open my eyes a little bit more. It’s 100% true! I was talking to my friend about what happened that day and about how I really wanted to move schools, this was his response. You just got to remember to keep your head up high no matter how difficult life gets.

5. You don’t have to try hard to impress your REAL friends, if they are your REAL friends then you will know about it…

Going back to the memories of year 7 when I got asked if someone could borrow money from me, I never got it back. I was taken advantage of and what they did was wrong. It was my mistake for trusting them. I didn’t try that hard to impress anyone, I didn’t change. Of course I have changed over the years, everyone changes, but at the time I didn’t change to fit in with anyone. What’s the point? You shouldn’t try to impress anyone, if they are your REAL friends then you won’t have to impress them and they will love you for who you are.

6. You need to take time for YOU…

I realised this last year, I was held up with revision for my exams and things that were going on with bullying. While I was revising, I was also helping out a few people who were younger than me because they were getting bullied. I wanted to make sure that what they were going through stopped and that they were okay. At the time, I was also getting bullied but I wanted to make sure everyone else was okay. In the end, I ended up stressed out to the point where all I did was care about whether everyone else was okay and my exams. But I was so stressed out, it was unbelievable. Point is, a friend saw that I was worrying too much about everything else and told me that I needed to take time for ME, to relax, to think about life. To think about if I was dealing with things in the right way. To let me know that if I told someone then a massive weight would be lifted off my shoulders. In the end, I went to go and speak to a teacher that I trusted, he helped me out, he made sure the people that were getting bullied were okay and that the problem was solved. It is important to have time to yourself, you don’t end up stressed out or ill that way.

7. You shouldn’t care about what other people think as long as you have the support from your friends you will be fine…

This is something that means a lot to me, although I have to be reminded of this regularly I still appreciate being told this. I first learnt this when I cut my hair differently and dyed it pink, I was so nervous to go to school. I was already being bullied and was worried people would say something about my hair, of course they did, and at the beginning I wanted to dye it back to brown but after being told by friends that it looked nice I decided I would keep it how it was. I often end up still asking friends if I look okay or if some sort of clothing suits me or not, thing is, I most likely love whatever it is (Hence owning it in the first place) but I still ask because I’m not 100% sure. Here’s a piece of advice if this paragraph sums you up, don’t care about what others think, if you like it then go for it. If I listened to people who mean nothing to me, in other words, bullies, then this blog wouldn’t even exist! They are most likely insecure, therefore that’s probably the reason they are horrible in the first place.

8. It will get better in the end…

This is really important to remember, even if it feels like it’s the end of the world it probably isn’t, it is important that you keep going. Things do get better, trust me I know from experience… It might not feel like it at the end of the day but the way you are feeling isn’t forever, it will only last for a short period of day. It will get better.

9. Don’t let a situation that is bothering you eat you up, talk to someone about it…

I’m rubbish at remembering this, if something is worrying me or bothering me, I will keep it on my mind for ages without talking about it until it is starting to eat me away. It is important to talk to people  about whatever it is that is bothering you, once you talk about it, it will feel like you have had a massive weight lifted off your shoulders.

10. You don’t have to do anything MASSIVE to be brave…

You don’t have to jump out a plane or do something that is incredibly cool to be brave. I got called brave by my friends for walking past a group of boys that bullied me for years, I felt brave too. I know that probably sounds stupid, but every single time I saw them I would make sure that I would walk a different way and if they were stood outside the classroom I was supposed to be in then I would walk around the building a few times until I knew they had gone, I know it sounds sad but its true. I also got called brave for standing up for what I believe in, when I was getting bullied and finally found my voice, I was able to say how I felt to them, I don’t know about you, but I class that as being brave. Believe it or not, it’s really difficult to stick up for yourself…

11. It is OKAY to stick up for yourself..!

I know this sounds stupid, of course it’s okay to stick up for yourself!! But long ago when I attempted to stick up for myself, I felt bad about it after, and I know how ridiculous that sounds but its true. I have always been told since I confessed to feeling bad about it, that it is OKAY to stick up for yourself! This is really important to remember!!!!

12. Hold your head up high, don’t let anyone bring you down…

When I got bullied, whenever I would walk past the people who used to bully me I would hold my head down and make sure not to make eye contact. I thought that if I didn’t look at them, they wouldn’t bully me, of course I was wrong. I started to take this piece of advice though. I started to hold my head up high when I walked past someone who had bullied me. It made me feel better. I started to let the horrible comments go straight over my head, sometimes it worked and sometimes it didn’t. The best thing to do was to hold my head high and not to let anyone bring me down.

13. “Things may get tough but you can’t ever give up…”

It’s important not to give up, even when things are at their toughest it is really important that you carry on being you. If you give up, how are you supposed to do the things you want to do? Keep going until you beat whatever it is that is holding you back! I believe in you…

14. “Being the bigger person is important, don’t forget it…”

This is important, the quote says it all really… Whenever someone is rude or makes a smug comment, it’s best to just ignore it, or just smile at that person because it really annoys them and they will know that it’s not affecting you.

15. “When you get pushed down be sure to get back up again…”

I got told this a while ago, I opened up to my friend about the past and how I used to get physically pushed down. He said that whenever I get pushed down physically or emotionally, it is important to get back up again! “What are you going to achieve when your on the floor? Nothing.” I took this piece of advice into consideration and started to get back up again. It defiantly works, I feel so much better for getting back up when I’m pushed down.

I just wanted to finish off this post for saying thank you to everyone that has supported me over the past few years, it means a lot and I’m really grateful for it! (You know who you are). Thank you for always being there for me when I need the support or the push to do something. I don’t know where I would be without a lot of you. I love you all so so much!

Okay, so that’s it from me this week! Thank you for all the support! It means ever so much to me! Stay positive and have hope! Much love – Alison xx

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