Hello to the beautiful people reading this blog, I’m back once again!
Side note – Just wanted to say a massive thank you for the support I’ve been getting recently via messages and comments, thank you so much, it means so much to me! Your all so amazing!
I thought I’d write about what I’ve been up to recently…
Recently I have been helping someone a little bit younger than me, I only met him 2 weeks ago but he started talking to me about bullying. He was getting told to shut up but I ended up telling him that he didn’t have to be quiet just because someone else thinks so. It’s a free world. I told him that I get told to shut up all the time but it’s best just to ignore it and carry on, even if you do get called annoying or whatever it is they call you, why should you shut up just because someone else doesn’t want to hear you, you have a voice for a reason. Unless of course if you are being horrible or offensive because then you probably should be quiet.
When everyone left, it was just me and him on the way home I ended up talking to him about how he shouldn’t let others control how he behaves in public, he shouldn’t have to hide who he is and what he is like in public.
I told him about how I get told to shut up all the time with trying to make jokes. I then made a joke and he made a face that everyone gives me, the one that makes me laugh.
“That wasn’t funny though…”
“But it made you smile so it did its job.”
Thing is, I don’t make ridiculously stupid jokes to be funny, I do it because most of the time it makes people smile and chances are if you smile it makes my day.
Getting to my point…
If you want to do something then do it, just because someone tells you to shut up doesn’t mean that you should. If someone tells you to quit what you’re doing just because they don’t like it or because it takes you more than once to get it right (unless your being horrible) then don’t quit.
I’ve made the mistake before where I’ve quit something just because someone has told me to. I haven’t done things because I’ve been told that I wouldn’t be able to or because it wouldn’t look right.
I got told I shouldn’t bother riding a bike, because I’m not skinny and I would struggle. I got told I would never succeed at anything and I think I’m doing pretty good for where I am in life compared to what people said.
Just because people tell you things that sound believable (When their telling you to give up) doesn’t mean that it is true, in fact, if your feeling up to it, you should do the exact opposite and prove them wrong.
Okay, so I didn’t go anywhere near the point that I am trying to prove. Let’s try again…
The kid I was speaking to, when I told him to tell someone about it (An adult) he said that it didn’t matter because he was use to it. That sentence makes me so angry. He’s been bullied to the point where he thinks it’s okay, HOW IS THAT OKAY? What is wrong with people, why do they have to bully others. This kid I’ve been talking to isn’t even 16 and he’s being told what to do and how he should be, by people who don’t know anything about him. Just because he’s used to it doesn’t make it okay! This world annoys me…
My point is, if you are going through something and you are “used to it”, that doesn’t mean it’s okay. If you are being treated badly, talk to someone about it, just because your “used to it” doesn’t make it okay. If you are constantly being brought down but your “used to it”, that doesn’t make it okay either. Carry on doing what you’re doing, prove them wrong and don’t settle for anything less than you deserve!
Okay, so that’s it from me this week.. I’ve been thinking about this for a while now (by a while I mean a few weeks), and I’ve decided that I’m making a comeback to social media, because why should I let the bullies control what I do? I’m back! Thank you to those of you that have convinced me this is a good idea (You know who you are). I’ve had a break for 3 months and even though that isn’t a very long time I’ve decided I’m going to come back to it all. Thank you for the ongoing support, you guys are absolutely fantastic!
Hope you’ve enjoyed reading. Remember to have hope and stay positive. Don’t settle for anything less than you deserve. Much love – Alison xx