A letter to my bullies…

Hi all, so this week I have decided I’d write a letter to anyone who has ever bullied me. But before I do, I just wanted to say thank you for the replies from last weeks post, it was really different and I appreciate the support that I have gotten from it, so thank you! It was really difficult to write about and I was kind of nervous to post it, so thank you…

Here goes…

Dear Mr Bully,

Remember me? Maybe not… I was just that kid that you could laugh at and make jokes about…  I saw you the other day, I got really anxious in case you remembered who I was, but you just glanced my way and that was it. I was kind of relieved but just seeing you, it was like a trip down memory lane again… Remember when you used to corner me and punch me in the stomach cause it was “funny” and no one could see? You and your 5 mates really did seem like you were having a good time… Remember when you tipped yogurt over me? Or made me cry in the middle of class by your whispering of horrible things? No? Well I do, and it’s likely that I will for the rest of my life…

What you put me through…Just to become popular or be that funny kid in class, I don’t really see how it was worth it? Look at you now, you’re a walking talking bully. So I moved on and managed to get away from you, so you moved on to someone else and now your known as a bully.

Does it make you feel better? The bullying, I mean…

You must feel like a real big person, someone who people look up to, and maybe you are for some… But I will never forget how you and your friends made me feel.

To me, it is cruel and I don’t see why you would want to bully anyone but I guess that is just my opinion.

“But it’s just banter Miss”. I’m glad you think that, on the other hand, I don’t believe that it is banter. Banter isn’t punching a girl in the stomach daily and making her lie to her dad about how the bruises got there. Banter isn’t cutting a girl’s hair and making her keep quiet. Banter isn’t making a girl cry in class because you find it funny to whisper hurtful things. Banter isn’t taking a girls money off of her or pushing her into walls or fences.

I just really don’t understand how any of that is okay to anyone, it’s horrible and cruel and no one should have to go through that.

Do you feel better now? It got so bad that I had to go to counseling and spend my lunchtime’s in a library. It got so bad that I wouldn’t go out of the house without my dad. It’s got so bad that I don’t go to certain places because I know you might be there, if you aren’t there one of your friends are bound to be there and that’s just as bad…

Definition of Bullying – There is no legal definition of bullying. However, it’s usually defined as behaviour that is:

  • repeated
  • intended to hurt someone either physically or emotionally
  • often aimed at certain groups, eg because of race, religion, gender or sexual orientation

It takes many forms and can include:

  • physical assault
  • teasing
  • making threats
  • name calling
  • cyber-bullying “

 

I don’t understand how it is banter if you have hurt me physically and emotionally…

I understand that some may have a reason why they bully other, but it’s NOT a good enough reason, there isn’t a good enough REASON to bully anyone..

I would say I hope you change but I know you probably won’t…

From, the girl you bullied…

I’m not just hiding behind a blog and saying all this, I have confronted bullies before… It was really difficult to do, but it’s just one of the many things that have made me stronger.

There was one guy that tried to speak to me because he hadn’t seen me in years, I was wondering why he was speaking to me and didn’t really want to speak to him and so I said “Why would I want to speak to you? Your nothing but a bully.”, Little did I know that the girl who was stood with him and his friends was his girlfriend. I didn’t know who she was until she sent me a message later that day on Facebook, she said she broke up with him and she apologized for his behaviour because she didn’t want me to think bad of her.

Another time, I was going to meet my dad after a bad day at school and the same boy who had bullied me that day came up to me with his friends and started calling me names. I was so frustrated, I simply said, “Do you enjoy bullying others? Is that your favourite thing to do? Do you like making people feel low? Do you like the fact that I want to move schools and don’t want to go to school anymore? Your nothing but a bully!” No word of a lie, he just started to cry and started saying how sorry he was…

I tried again with another boy but he just ran away so it didn’t really work, and I’ve spoken about the other times on my blog in previous blog posts…

Okay… So that’s it for this weeks post, it would have been longer but if I could actually write a letter to someone who has bullied me, it would be pages and pages long, I have so much I want to say and so many questions… But there it is… My next post will be next Thursday like usual. Once again thank you for all the support. It honestly does mean so much! Your comments mean everything to me. Much love – Alison xx

 

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