Who I am and why I’m here???
My name is Alison, I’m 17 years old. I am currently studying Applied Science and Health and Social Care at sixth form. I have been bullied since I was little. The main reason I was bullied was because my brother has autism and this makes him different, therefore easy to hate. My brother and I get on really well, because I stuck up for him and another child at school with additional needs, bullying started, as hate is something that is so easy to dish out, it’s hidden and hurts. People do not think about what is going on in someone’s mind, I became aware of this after going to a young carers club. When I was little, a girl told me how horrible some people were being because her mum had cancer, because she was housebound she couldn’t go and get the daughters school uniform, because of this people were really hateful just because her uniform was untidy.
The reason I started my blog was because there is very little information on how to deal with bullies at school. If I was an adult I could sue for compensation from work, if I was an adult I could go to my boss or union for help. Bullying is hidden in school, not many people realise that it happens, or if they do, they ignore it. When I was being bullied, I turned to my dad who then went into school many times, the answer was always the same “It’ll be dealt with”, or “Your daughter isn’t telling the whole story” or “We’re sorry about that, the child has anger management problems, we are trying to deal with it”, saying these things makes the victim forgotten, if you sweep it under the carpet it didn’t happen. There is nothing that says you have to record how many times parents go in to school about bullying but I think it should be recorded. I know of people that have left school after trying to commit suicide due to bullying… Racism is a hate crime that is recorded yet bullying doesn’t seem to matter, as long as the school have a bullying policy, all seems well.
During year 8, I turned to social media, I spoke to more people online than I did in person because I found it easier. Turns out, it’s easier to speak to complete strangers on the internet about your favorite band or book series than it is to actually hold a conversation with people in person. I know, I know, that makes me sound anti social and like I don’t talk to actual human beings, but at the time, it was a way to escape the bullying. I would have rather been on my phone talking to another teenager about a book than I would try and communicate with people at my school and be bullied. I was really lucky because my dad had a interest in who I was talking to, at one point I was talking to a 16 year old guy about bullying and then all of a sudden it turned out he was a 29 year old that wanted to take me to the cinema without my dad knowing, he said things like “Tell your dad your going to meet your friends”, so as good as it is talking to other teenagers online you have to be aware of who you are actually talking to (!!!). If in doubt, talk to a adult.
I discovered while being bullied that it is easier to talk to people online than it is face to face and so that is the aim of this blog, to help people with bullying. I believe that I was put on this earth to help people, it’s what I enjoy doing and I’m good at it, there is nothing like the buzz of two little children running up and hugging you because they missed you being at their club as a volunteer and then asking their mum if I can go to KFC with them, the mum said “who’s this?!” and having the child reply, “It’s Alison, mummy, from club”, and then having the mother say to me “Oh, I have heard so much about you, thank you for what you do”. Knowing that a little kindness can make so much difference to someone’s life has changed my life, I want to make a difference on this earth, that is the aim of this blog. In 2014, I was invited to Pride of Reading, I won the Young Person of the Year Award, that is why I started this blog because of the amount of people that came up to me and said what I was doing was great, this was quite the confidence boost. That is the reason I started my blog.
I find that blogging is a better way to keep a diary, it’s more open, I’ve always wanted to keep a diary and then look back on it in 5 or 10 years but after a few months of writing a diary I found it boring and so I found that this was a better way to share my thoughts. What’s the point of keeping a diary if no one is going to read it? I suppose that is the point of a diary but that to me is boring…
I’ve had my blog for just over a year now and that to me is an accomplishment (One of many I’d like to achieve in the future), considering how much grief I have had for writing a blog, it’s great that I didn’t delete it and that I carried on. I aim to carry on with this blog and help more people, thank you to those that have came up to me in school and said that they enjoy reading it or that it helps. It means a lot when someone comes up to me and says, “It’s Friday, how come you didn’t post yesterday? Are you posting today or something?” or when I get comments during the week about how people can’t wait to read Thursday’s blog post. It means a lot. Also a big thank you to those that comment on my posts, and the biggest thank you of all goes to all those that have been supporting me from day one, you are all such amazing people! Most of all I want to thank my daddy for supporting me through everything, I love you.
So this is who I am and why I’m here… Enjoy reading! Much love – Alison xx