You CAN say that to me, is it RIGHT though ???

Last week I came across someone who I thought I could talk to about bullying, so quite frankly I spoke to them about it, mainly because they said that they had been bullied when they were little… The thing with me is, whenever I hear that adults were bullied when they were younger I always ask them how they got it to stop or other advice. This time was different though, he was understanding and gave me some good advice but then thought it was okay to say, “Don’t take this the wrong way, but you are a big girl.” I didn’t really know what to say so I finished off the conversation, said goodbye and walked away.

I don’t understand how you thought it was okay to say that. Don’t you think I already knew that? I mean I’ve been bullied about it long enough to know about it. Honestly. What really upset me was that he thought it was okay and it’s the way he gave me a certain look after, that really upset me. I don’t care how I look anymore, I have the people I need around me and they don’t care about how I look, that’s good enough for me. For someone that hardly knows me, you shouldn’t say things like that. I mean I know he said “don’t take this the wrong way…”, but I’m going to be 100% honest, I do take anything like that the wrong way. This is me and you can’t do anything about it, I’m not changing for anyone in this life time!

Another thing that annoys me is what if I was going through a hard time? If that was someone else, someone saying that to them may have been their breaking point. It’s horrid. Yes. People have said worse things to me. Yes. People will probably read this and think that it’s no big deal. However, they don’t understand how much this affects people. Your telling me something I already know, it made me feel like it was a reminder, something that’s been shoved in my face again. No one really understands how it feels until someone says something like that to them, especially when they have to deal with hate in other ways.

I’m going to be honest, even though worst things have been said to me, this really hurt. Your an adult. Your not a child or teenager. I usually get this sort of thing said to me by children or teenagers, that’s what really upset me. You’ve been through it, your supposed to be better than who bullied you when you grow up, not say things just as bad to people that are experiencing bullying, it’s pathetic.

I’ve said a lot that I won’t let things like this effect me, I’m not going to lie though, this was really difficult to hear. I know it’s true, I just don’t appreciate it…It’s like when you try telling someone something and they repeat themselves 10 more times, annoying right? Okay so maybe that’s not the same, but you probably get where I’m coming from…

What really annoys me is that YOU know what it’s like to be bullied, you understand what it feels like to be bullied, and then do exactly the same thing as others have done for years. So my question for you is, you CAN say it, but do YOU think it’s the RIGHT thing to say?

So here’s my post for this week, sorry it’s kind of a rant (Is it? I don’t think it is but I’m apologizing in advance in case it is, whoops!) Here’s my advice: If you ever get something said to you that upsets you, please do tell someone, no matter how small you think it is, tell someone because even though this happened a week ago, just thinking about it upsets me, so please do tell someone, it’ll be worth it. You never know the problem might even get sorted out.

Thanks for reading, hope you all have a nice week! Much love – Alison xx

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Sunshine Bloggers Award

This weeks blog post is going to be a little different. I’ve been very lucky to be nominated for the Sunshine Bloggers Award, I was nominated by the lovely KirstWrites. Anyone sunshineaward.jpgreading this should go and check out her blog because it’s great! Definitely one of my favorite blogs to read!

When I got the email saying I got a notification from KirstWrites commenting on my blog and then read what she commented, I got so excited, I literally went and told my dad – To be honest it’s the small things like this that matter to me, to me, it’s an achievement in itself. It proves that I’m accomplishing the reason I started my blog in the first place.

When I read “Sunshine Bloggers Award”, I got kind of confused, I’d never heard of it before, so of course I Googled it, after reading a few different quotes from different bloggers, I found one.

“The Sunshine Blogger Award is given to those who are inspiring and bring sunshine into the lives of their readers and fellow bloggers”.

Knowing exactly what it is has made my day! So once again thank you to the wonderful person that nominated me, it means a lot!

Here’s how this works, I answer the questions that I have been sent (read down below), I then nominate my favorite blogs and then ask them some questions. Obviously if you are nominated you don’t have to participate, it’s just a bit of fun and a chance to get more views on your blog! 🙂

Now here are the questions that I have been asked:

How did you choose the name of your blog?

Now this is quite a weird answer, but here goes; I was going through a tough time (Being bullied on the daily), I changed my Instagram name to Myinsanewxnderland, mainly because people call me insane (Their joking, I think, yeah probably not), and so I started to post what I like, quotes about how I felt that day and pictures that related to how I felt. It was nice to know that I could take control and do what I wanted on social media without people judging me or saying horrible things. It was like my own wonderland.

 

A national newspaper wants to print one of your blog posts – which one would you choose and why?

Good question, probably this one: https://myinsanewxnderlandblog.wordpress.com/2015/10/29/a-year-on-from-pride-of-reading-my-experience/  Mainly because Pride of Reading was one of the main reasons I started this blog in the first place.

 

What was the best book you read in the last 12 months?

Tough question, most likely Girl Online by Zoe Sugg, also known as Zoella online (on YouTube). I finished reading the book a few weeks into my summer last year. It’s brilliant! One of my favorites! I fell in love with the book. Reading it, I sort of saw a comparison (minus the whole going to America, meeting a pop-star thing), the girl in the book often has trouble at school and reading it I could relate to most of it. It’s a great book! Recommend it to any teenage girls (or boys, maybe)!

 

Social media – a fantastic invention or the curse of the modern world?!

I’d say both – It’s a fantastic invention because people can connect from all around the world and make new friends. When I had no one, I’d be on Twitter, Tumblr or some other type of social media because people that I didn’t know understood what I was going through.

However, social media is also a curse because often people hide behind computer screens or phone screens to bully others, this often ruins peoples lives because even when your at home, the bullies are still with you. It’s not just bullying, I think because of technology and social media that people have forgotten how to connect with one another without technology. Someone would rather text their friend rather than going to the park or going out for coffee to talk to them (it kind of sucks).

 

My nominations:

KirstWrites -> https://kirstwrites.wordpress.com/  I love reading your posts! They are very interesting! I also wanted to say a massive thank you for nominating me and also commenting on my posts, it really means a lot!

Betwixthesepages -> https://betwixtthesepages.wordpress.com/  I always like to read different book reviews, sometimes it’ll get me interested in books I’ve never heard of before and so I’ll go and buy the book and read it. Love your blog!

Kindness Blog -> http://kindnessblog.com/ -> Often I’ll be scrolling through my dashboard on WordPress and I see all the lovely things that you post, it’s great to read!

Real Girl; No Name -> https://realgirlnoname.wordpress.com/ -> I absolutely love reading your poetry and the other things you post! I can relate to some of them and they give you this kind of “I can’t stop reading” feeling.

 

My questions:

  1. What inspired you to start a blog?
  2. What is your all time favorite book?
  3. What is your favorite food?
  4. What do you think can make this world a better place?

 

Just want to say, once again, thank you for nominating me! Hope everyone has a great week! Oh and if you want to answer these questions but you aren’t in my nominations, go ahead! Comment below, whether your a blogger or not, I’d be interested to read the replies! Thank you. Hope you enjoyed reading. Much love – Alison xx

First post of 2016: Let’s talk about real friends…

12483795_935778073157086_1997040367_nI want to kick off 2016 by talking about something quite close to me…

When I was in year 7, I didn’t really know the difference between real friends and people that were taking the micky. Some people still try to do that, they’ll come up and talk to me and their friends will be in a group not far behind, staring and laughing. I never really understood it, I still don’t to be honest… But I got told I was the joke, so I guess that’s what that was.

Anyways, in year 7 when I was alone and didn’t really have any friends, the “popular group” would come up and speak to me, I thought they were just being nice, and to start with they were. Whenever I walked past or was seen alone they’d say hello and ask how I was. However after a while, they’d ask me personal questions and call me names along with it, whenever I walked away from it I’d get laughed at. In lessons I’d sit alone and someone out of the group would come and sit next to me and start talking to me, which I wouldn’t exactly mind but then I figured out I was a joke to them. I found out the difficult way, instead of realising, I found out by someone over Facebook, and they weren’t exactly nice about it either.

I didn’t really understand, so instead of telling anyone I put my head in the sand and kept it there for years. I didn’t tell anyone that it was bothering and this is when it started to affect my school life, as in my school work.

What I’m trying to say is, if you are experiencing anything like this then tell someone, a parent, a teacher, a friend, someone, anyone, it doesn’t matter who, just talk to someone about it and you never know, they may try to solve the problem.

I’m very lucky now, things turned around, I’ve got a fantastic group of friends that I can talk to about anything, their very supportive, if I’m ever getting any grief from people they always convince me to go speak to someone… It doesn’t hurt telling anyone, it may even make the problem better.

If this has ever happened to you, trust me, it’s not you, it’s them. They have nothing better to do. Don’t ignore it, tell someone!

Anyways that’s it for this week, there will be a new post next Thursday as usual, sorry it’s not that long this week. Hope everyone had a good Christmas and a good start to the new year. Have a nice weekend Much love – Alison xx