So, I’ve started to realize that no one really cares about anyone else when it comes to their education. They don’t care if they mess up someone’s future or grades that they get. They don’t care if you get kicked out of school, as long as they get what they want (Decent grades, a good job that leads to a good future) then their okay.
Last week I was speaking to someone and they said to do what’s best for me. To get all my work done before I worry about anyone else because that is the only way I’m going to succeed in what I want to do. Although, my problem with that is that I care about people probably a lot more than I should (that’s not supposed to sound horrible), what I mean by that is that I put others first, sometimes I put them before myself and that means putting them before my education. It doesn’t matter who you are, whether I’m really close to you or whether I hardly know you at all, if I see you upset then I’m most likely going to ask if you’re okay and sometimes I will end up sitting with that person for an hour (Maybe more), trying to help. The downside to that is that I’m probably not going to get any work done.
Most likely the people reading this are going to be thinking, “but that person is upset so you should be seeing if their okay and talking to them, it doesn’t matter about your work”. However, if all I do is help people then I am never going to get on with my work, of course I love helping people, but sometimes it needs to come first.
The point of this post was to basically say that no matter what happens, you have to make sure that you make the right decisions for YOU and YOUR future. Don’t do something if you know deep down it’s not the right thing to do. There are the few odd people that do care but when it comes to your education think about it. Is it worth risking your grades? No, probably not. Don’t be sat in some job you don’t like in 30 years time wishing that you had done things differently. Make the right choices for you because you’ll only disappoint yourself.
I’m only writing about this because I have ended up regretting things from the past, but not the usual “I really regret saying that”. I regret opportunities that I didn’t take. Most of the time, I didn’t take the opportunities because I was scared someone would be horrible and would make me regret going, but now that I think about it now, I probably would’ve been okay. Whenever I used to get offered anything, as in like going somewhere, I’d think about it and constantly going through my mind would be, “someone might say something”, “it’s not going to be fun, what if someone is horrible?”, “what if you can’t talk to anyone because you always struggle to hold conversations?”, “what if they make a joke out of you?” Now I’m wishing I took the opportunities and didn’t care about what was going to happen. I’m always asking myself “what if”, when really I shouldn’t be asking myself what if, I should be taking the chances and going for what’s best.
If you do the same and sit there and think “what if”, maybe stop. Another one of my goals for 2016 is to live in the moment and take things as they come, to stop myself from worrying about what might happen. Maybe you should do the same 🙂
Also, I just wanted to say a huge thank you to those of you that filled out my survey, thank you for all the kind comments, it means so much to me! Remember if you haven’t already filled out the survey you still can, it only takes a few minutes and it’s completely anonymous too.
Thank you for all the support! Have a nice rest of your week! – Alison xx