So today I finally stuck up for myself, I thought I’d write about it as I’m quite proud of myself to be honest.
So at break time, my friend’s and I were chilling, sharing crisp’s, a boy in my year decided to call me fat and walked straight past but his friend said hi and I replied. I got told that he only said something cause I’m vulnerable and wont bite back, this kind of annoyed me, so I decided to confront him about it and said that if he had something to say to say it to my face instead of walking past. At the time he was half way through walking through a door and I didn’t think he’d come back but he did. He stood by the door trying to intimidate me. I told him straight.
Turn’s out people don’t like it when you confront them and tell them the truth. I said that if he find’s it funny calling someone fat he should find something better to say. People seriously need to realise that bullying someone does not make them seem like the “big man”, that’s what I said today and he didn’t like that because he knew that I was right. I said how he’s just a bully and needs to find something better to do. They don’t like it when they know secretly that your right. He didn’t know what to say so he just stared at me, I told him to take a picture because it last’s longer.
My friend’s found it funny, none of them have seen me stick up for myself before and I honestly didn’t know I had it in me. No one expects me to say anything back, they know I have it in me, it’s just me finding my confidence. One of my best mates walked past and knew what I was doing, he seemed quite surprised that I actually said something, usually I wouldn’t but I’m kind of fed up with people bullying me and calling me names. Their the reason I have no confidence in the first place, people put me down and I believe them which then ruins my confidence.
But yeah, if this happens to you, depending on who you are and what your like, ignore them or you can confront the person, being honest though it’s probably best if you don’t confront them, I only did it today to see what would happen, I mean I’m use to being bullied and it’s not like their going to do anything worse than they already do, it does bother me, yes, but I’m use to it and if I show that I’m not bothered what they say then hopefully they’ll get bored.
Bullies don’t like it when you confront them, especially if your right and it’s in front of one of their best mates. What made it even better was that I got told people were proud of me for sticking up for myself. I don’t care if he goes around spreading things about me and calling me rude and different names because I’m use to it, not from him but from other people so it’ll just add to it which doesn’t really bother me. I’m not saying that it won’t hurt me because I know it will but I’ve got a great support system and that’s what makes it better. The good things balance out the bad.
I just wanted to say thank you to all the support I have got today, it means a lot to me. Honestly, with what I did today that made me feel so much better, it just shows that my confidence is starting to build up again.
Oh and thank you to the boy that decided to call me fat today because now I’ve had another thing to write about on my blog
Have a good day, remember words do hurt so be careful what you say
– Alison xx